I only have one friend who's very nice and understanding known him since primary school. A few months ago, I didn't even know what this was. One moment, sweet and engaged, and the next, yelling and ugly. I had never been able to recover from this, but I have this time. I completely agree with the commenter who said that Aspies should come with a warning label. He expects me to have him back and although he says he doesnt expect me to forgive him.
And shared emotions, different types of ping backs. . If not, let it go. I stay in that relationship because I want to. He is all about efficiency, therefore my aesthetic arguments never seem to work! My husband and I, although we try so hard, often leave an argument both feeling misunderstood and frustrated. To be fair, neither did the husbands and partners.
Some days I hate my partner, I admit it, but most of the time I love him and that is why I will stay. Having a support group or website to ask questions is also helpful. Sorry for sounding so mystical, but being married to an aspie is a very worthy adventure. How can I sleep with someone and move forward with no feedback? Women are far less likely to get a diagnosis, but this doesn't necessarily that there are less of them. People often make the same assumptions. Barely takes my call, won't respond to a text and doesn't care to see me or not. Its so sad that she is going through all this and I can do nothing to help.
I recognize that some of this is my fault as well. I was in a car accident about year ago. I dont feel that everyone has wronged me and they should cater to my needs. I try not to label myself with my shortcomings though, so while I only have a certain amount of energy to do everything, I am not necessarily unable to do any specific thing i. I have since that time quit smoking for me , been in therapy, immersed myself in personal training and work. I have found both of these therapies super helpful for myself and my marriage.
For instance, it can sometimes help by writing down agreed times and duties. Now he resents me for harping on him and I resent him for being stubborn and incompetent. Tell the truth to the bank. And the fact that he was making good money doing something he loved too much. I went into grief, then denial because of the attraction, but there were too many little things that went wrong in our courtship for me to retain in-love denial for more than about a week. This is a mistaken concept.
The sex is 2x a month at best and i have adjusted to just sucking it up. Can I really never love like a normal person? Self-respect will have been adversely affected by being rejected, ridiculed and tormented by peers. I'm not saying dating an aspie is for everyone. The effort that it takes to say I love you might wear us out for a week. I'm looking at these comments, thinking how autistic people must feel reading them.
I'm an Asperger man 56 who was diagnosed initially by my now recently seperated wife of 12 years and later confirmed by a clinical psychologist. I know what I should do. Strangely, at the outset, I was not taking it super seriously. This relationship has taken all of me. It embarrasses me, but I would not shout abuse at him. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will add value to my readers. I am wondering what parts I should tolerate and what I should not.
When I try to talk to him about how invalidated I feel, he gets extremely defensive and he talks over the top of me and starts bringing up irrelevant things like something I said the day before or the week before that he saw as trying to change him. He is loyal, faithful, hardworking and tries to be a good person. Even though I knew how he could not empathize nor see things from my perspective. He is old enough now to realize his father's brain doesn't work properly. And it isnt worth hurting someone to get it. He never was a partner in that he never stepped up to the plate to even try. He may not be able to see risks, and you will not feel safe to leave your kids with him.
He isnt able to put himself in my position. I left so that he didnt have to say it. The biggest problem for me was his constant criticism of me - my body not perfect in his eyes , my smell, my way of thinking or doing things, and so on - while all the kind and loving things I did for him never even got mentioned. Interestingly, all this time I never doubted she loved me even though there have been fewer than 20 verbal displays of affection, empathy etc E. Hope better times are ahead. I was put under enormous pressure to try to make it work, be understanding, and tolerate behaviors understanding them as part of condition. This helps me enormously as I can google and find out things and once I realise the enormity of it I now know I need to also look after myself.