I think you should forgive him and reconsider. Would you be devastated if he left? You should talk to him about his fantasies. Her medical proxy was her boyfriend. Anonymous pictures, fantasies and thoughts are okay when contained. I was open about this to him and he gave me the feeling I was safe with him. . It is not your responsibility to protect the image or ego of a cheater.
Consider this: If you ask your boyfriend about the text messages and he believes that he was not cheating, does this mean that you would also be allowed to sext other people? Sorry about that, but it sounds like you should move forward with some mix of caution and courage: aware of the risk of disaster because his breakup is so fresh and the potential for something great because you seem to really like him. First off, you're right to worry: Five months is not a long time. All of this was taking a toll on our marriage. He obviously has no respect for you if he sexts other women, let alone your own damn friends. But I told him that I wanted some time to think about how we go from here.
You asked how to confront your boyfriend. As for the assumption that this must be about your sex life or lack thereof — oh please. Crying your eyes out while still staying with him won't change anything. Would I be devastated if he left? Why not give it try? And for the record, it sounds like he cheated, real life sex. We live in a small town and it's easy to see or hear things, I only confront him from things I've seen personally not talk around the town, although it is in the back of my head. He has clearly seen several times how much it hurts me, yet he chooses to keep doing so. Yes, the wife has every right to be extremely angry, upset and hurt.
She got to stay home with the kids. I feel like he's not committing, he also has an ex and kids which is another issue with us. I'm feeling so incredibly hurt, disgusted and taken for granted. Otherwise, I fear you're headed for heartbreak. Your boyfriend is a dope.
I've never had any reason to distrust him. I call bullshit on all of it. Yeah but he was probably afraid how you would react. A little while later, the Cop goes back down to the Killer's basement. He may dislike that his actions have further consequences than he thought they would have but they are still consequences from his actions. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog.
Usually something new and exciting together will satisfy that itch for most couples. Not even sorry for what he has done. I mean I can imagine a throwaway comment about this making him look bad when he just finds out, but if he tries to make this into an actual point to be debated then walk. I am going crazy, tried to trust him but everytime i feel like he is really changed i found unexplainable behavior from him. He will not get better and every time you communicate with him you make him stronger. Do i try to get past this? Fast forward a few months the weird behavior happens again.
I think you need to go to counseling to get to the bottom of the reasons for the behavior and then you can decide whether they can realistically be dealt with and whether you are realistic in expecting change. The update needs to be about the solution. To sum it up, commitment is a conscience mature decision not to be wishy-washy or immature about on all levels. Your actions are a direct result of his stupidity. One hundred percent his fault.
It may depend on whether the two of you typically have access to each others' texts. His excuse now is basically the same thing. You approached each other in front of the Altar with a desire to commit to each other and watch each other grow old. I mean 3 times the charm. I just caught my boyfriend of almost 3 years sexting some girl from his work. It was eight months stepping down a wrong road.