The best thing you can do is be understanding. Fix dinner or bring over a casserole. We try our best to keep an eye out for trouble, but we don't have the resources to review all the content in the sub in real time. I would photocopy what you feel relates to depression, because if for some reason he decides to throw it out, you will have a copy, but I don't sense that he will do this. I also have to add that we've just moved to a a new city and don't know anyone here.
It all feels like terror. And in all fairness to a woman marrying someone with any potentially serious illness, the man should be up front and tell his fiancée that she is free to leave because having a potentially devastating illness may be too much for her to bear. I want to reconcile and get back with her, I'd love that more than anything. I can't imagine how that feels. Some people communicate in ways that promote good feelings and a happy connection. Try to educate yourself on it.
Take care and all the best mate. He says he stopped enjoying life without me, he needed to slow down and I needed to respect his pace. It takes the strength of a warrior to keep pushing things down, and getting on with life. I also noticed a pattern where Sundays seem to be his real down days, so I guess I need to look deeper into the why. We might get easily irritated and annoyed. Is there anything I could say to make her believe I'm genuinely happy with her, and that she isn't a burden? This is mostly speculation of course, I don't really know any history of her depression or your relationship but based on this post those are the things that jump to mind.
I feel as though I am talking to my daughter who is your age. As a survivor of suicide myself, my heart goes out to those that have lost someone due to this. And if she truly loved him. Live with hope in your heart and release expectation. Someone could tell me I'm fine, that I'm not unpleasant, that I'm not ruining their life, and I assume they're lying to me. We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Depression is super shitty, I'm sorry you're being hurt by it.
Either way, don't look for the hidden meaning in her words. By letting us know that we can talk to you about how we are feeling, we can gain a sense of safety and support around us. Express your needs well and have them met. Help us to help others and share this post, you never know who might need it. Feelings of not deserving, guilty about past, etc.
These achievements bring us a step closer to recovery and some day we will be able to achieve bigger things, but for now it's about putting one foot in front of the other and achieving little things to give us that sense of accomplishment. Jack Hello, You are doing all the right things. Letting them know you're still around and still care can sometimes help. The following week was pretty good. There is a real, physiological difference. This 'uncle by marriage', became critical and verbally abusive towards his cihldren and sank into several long episodes of deep where he had to be hospitalized. For me he is worth fighting for because the good in our relationship out weighs the bad incredibly.
I don't doubt how much he loves me, if anything he was more invested in the relationship than me. He said he was going to have too much homework which later found out he went out with other friends. We hit it off instantly. The key to lasting happiness in love. After the month of depression he finally started to feel up for seeing people.
When it was time to leave, his whole demeanor changed. It sucks feeling responsible for that, and resentment builds on both sides. This is a really good point that I can definitely sympathize with. Mental illness, especially untreated, is a relationship liability. Sincere regards, Deirdre x Mental illness does tend to run in families. Maybe explain in your own words that you want to support her but you also want to give her the space she is asking for. Yes, when I ask for time alone sometimes I have maxed out on my ability to engage in relationships in a meaningful way and just need a time out from social pressures.
Depressed people are already overly sensitive to things like this, so communicating in writing can make it even worse. I am not a quitter and I don't want to give up on him, but at the same token, I need to know if he actually wants to be here with me. Also said it bugs him now that I have things going for me yet am insecure and upset when he has it worst and count my blessings rather than be anxious. People can make excuses and say that it does, that it can take control of you completely and make bad choices - to an extent they are right. So I'm feeling unwanted and unloved myself.