You kind of always knew it wasn't going to be quite right, we need to learn to trust our instincts. Is it worth considering counseling? Was I attarcted to my husband in the beginning no. I would suggest individual and couples therapy before making any decisions. I know he is trying hard to get me pregnant, but I am too smart to let that happen. He never told me I was pretty, I always told him how good he looked. In short, they would have stayed in the first marriage and done all they could to make it work.
I had the best and I fucked it up by not dealing with my issues that were born in the childhood abuse … catch-22 at it's finest. And then I start asking myself the questions… Is it possible to co-parent and still function well as a divorced family? My husband and i havent been married very long. She cheated and told me and we are trying to work on it. I've been with my husband for 10 years and have an infant. And it will also be difficult for you to work on any of your own issues that may be contributing to marital dissatisfaction if you're not open about how upset you are. Ten years married, no kids…largely sexless marriage…friendship and the fact that he is a wonderful man have kept me what I thought was content all this time.
Love is something that happens to you, overtakes and consumes you, and exists as a force outside of you, beyond your control. I just don't know what i did wrong Maybe i'm too perfect in her eyes? He did a lot of good things for me and I made a lot of positive changes in my life because of him. I was tired of the lack of intimacy in our relationship sexual and eventually emotional. You guys both have to work at it. We had some incredible, blissful, loving times together, but I was always putting in the work to get us there. So I advise a different approach in your endeavors. He was there for me when I had no one else.
Hi Adri, Still just swinging between tolerating and being repulsed. But telling things like you can swich it back on is illogical. . Hi, I am 40 years old and have not been attracted for over a year. Again, this has got nothing to do with guys being nice or not.
The what if we do therapy, or we do this or we do that. I just no longer believe it can be fixed. It happened only once … and was not discovered by anyone. Again, it was a relief to talk to someone and not feel emotionally drained. We've had a rocky relationship from day 1.
It is definitely difficult to give advice without knowing more about your situation, but I would definitely take some serious time to think about why your are feeling unhappy. I am done he want let me go wants everything. I will try and sum up a 30 year marriage in as few words as possible. Stolen waters are sweet but they leave you with should of and could of regret. In 2006, I became pregnant again. You may be in relationships that are not, and never will be, satisfying.
Like, he or she got a new job. I became a single mom of 3 kids. Right now, the latter relationship is platonic; flirtatious at most. Second marriage, wanting that edfection, touch love and feeling. I pickup our 14 yr old. Trust me wife had been doing a rock solid job.
My fear has always been to be alone, to live alone, to have someone walk out of my life. Sending good vibes your way! I wanted to be with you because it was safe, being with you would have only catered to the bastards who made me un trusting of men. Now, more than fifteen years later, it may not be strange that we've grown apart in some ways and grown completely siamese in others. She gave up everything, but got everything—she is living with the passionate love of her life. If there is no trust then happiness and love will struggle to rise above. Romance is a temporary neurological sate of mind. But I feel some decision needs to be made.
I got married when I was 22 to Matt. As a matter of fact, I went so far as to divorce my wife to be with the other woman. You still love your husband. In some cases, I fell in love with their personalities completely, but could not sleep with them. If I tell him something that has happened in my life he likes to through it back in my face when we have an argument. Like anon put it, I am getting vibes of resentment too. Is this how things are supposed to be…and am I ok with it? When I first told her he was hitting me,she laughed.