حسناً، يبدو ذلك منطقياً، ولكن، لماذا إذن، قلت عنه أنه مفهوم متطرف ؟ لأنه كذلك بالفعل. The more the lonely person seeks love, the more it eludes them. How long will she remain angry with you? The ones where commitment and stability are built. It stems from a place in the brain as all other drives so love really is a need, like sleep, hunger, etc , and is basically located in our reward centre. If a species is relatively precocial, we would not expect long-term mating to evolve.
Sometimes however the beloved person is behaving in an unacceptable way. إنها قد كانت جزءً يبرر قطعاً بعضاً من سلوكي، ولكن، ليس كله حتماً. Throughout the book, the author also shows a strong proclivity for speculation, seemingly mistaking it for theory. لماذا نحب؟ طبيعة الحب وكيمياؤه هيلين فيشر. But it is always the one who loves and is loved who gets it.
The more time two people spend together, the greater the likelihood of such situations. The only explanation for this is if Helen Fisher did not actually reveal anything of use to me. وهذا الكتاب يحتوي عليمادة معرفية تشبه ما في الكتب القديمة؛ لأنه يتحدث عن نفس موضوعها، وعن نفس الخامة النفسية للنفس الإنسانية التي تعتبر هي نفسها موضوع الحب، لكن هذا الكتاب يتميز عن الكتب القديمة بأنه بحث عن التأصيل العلمي لموضوع الحب، وهو ما كان غائبا في عصر تأليف الكتب القديمة. The only downside I found with this book was that it didn't really go into too much detail about the brain and its chemicals which drive us. We are the social beings and hence there is a need for love. Humans create love out of strong, personal bonds.
It plays a part in more than just the falling in love phase. كما تري الكاتبة أن عاطفة الحب تعتبر غريزة إنسانية أساسية. وهي حين ننجذب إلى من لا يشبهوننا. But this Helen Fisher is the talking head we get whenever the media wants an expert on the subject. We would still bond, though, she says, noting that contemporary love is more successful when key components like passion, companionship and commitment are present. Well it makes us feel good and in a cocoon. Sometimes, the person who wants to be loved is unconsciously getting in their own way.
In these cases, serotonin levels may plummet. What we do to ourselves, or what we intend to do, is what we expect from from our beloved. Think about humans: We are not like deer! إنها حيلة الطبيعة كي تقنع زوجاً من البشر بأن يتلازما لدرجة معينة من الوقت تكفي كي يربيا صغيرهما. Sometimes, the circumstances are such that we get frustrated and say things we should not. Fashion, beauty, social media, pop culture, all cultivate a myth of effortlessness. Sharing feeling This is another reason for humans to love. We also have a natural instinct to love and care for our children just like most other mammals who raise their children until they are ready and able to venture out on their own.
Author, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life. The Evolutionary Function of Love Love within a pair-bond is clearly an evolved product of high levels of parental investment in humans see Fisher, 1993. God died for us at our worst, in the midst of our sin, when we were totally unlovable Romans 5:8; John 15:13. This lack of confidence translates into neediness, which repels potential love-interests like bug spray. The Bottom Line From an evolutionary perspective, love ultimately exists because it helped our ancestors form strong pair-bonds that facilitated successful child rearing. For more details see The book was released by 2knowmyself.
In many cases a by-product of an enjoyable activity to one person is an unpleasant situation for another. Again, expectation, but from the other party, but the result, same. . That's not to say that people from neglectful or non-loving homes aren't capable of love themselves, but they might need to do some extra work to resolve their issues and get there. I do not want to say, as Oscar Wilde did, that each man kills the thing he loves; however, hurting one's beloved is frequent. There were also many foreign, ancient stories to show love in different cultures, but again, they lack a purpose in the book.
رغم هوامش الاختلاف مع فيشر في هذا الكتاب، إلا أنه يظل مع كتاب رايك أحد أهم الكتب التي تضع أمامنا فرصة أكبر لفهم أنفسنا. We Are the Slowly Developing Ape Species vary in terms of how advanced their offspring are at birth, which ultimately means that they vary in terms of how able their offspring are to care for themselves at birth. Whatever we think makes for an ideal mate at age 17 is not going to be what we want for a mate at age 25 or 35. But that doesn't have to be the reality. I have abandonment rage and love addiction, which are covered in this book. In the safety of the environment of family you let down your very carefully placed veneer that you use to deal with people on a daily basis.