Or she will just take it underground. Sex is just not all that important to me. And I know she would be sooooo mad if she knew I posted this. But I just masturbate every so often. I have suggested going to a sex therapist. This is common in the life of many women.
To paint the picture,we are in our early 30's, we have a very large, mixed family, My wife and I have been married for 7 years. Which reminds me, she looks smoking hot now. Two, if this is unacceptable to you, then you agree to an open marriage, so I can ethically fulfill this need outside the marriage. Like you said, your husband was just one of many who were in demand of your attention. Second, you are doing all the chasing.
As far as the controlling and talking down to that your W complains about, can your W give you specific examples that you can work from, or is it just some vague talk from her? Even during our last round of marriage counseling we agreed to having sex once a week, and although it worked for a while it dwindled to almost never happening. Hi s0medude~ Thanks for posting! Trust me, it is a horrible feeling! Instead of focusing on your needs, ask your wife just what it is that makes her so unable to be sexually close. Even though woman are married, some like to know there is still a challenge. She is in a state of mind that, if I can take my sperm and just give it to her she will inject it herself rather than having sex with me. She cried hysterically and couldn't believe I asked her such a question.
Why not just delete the account entirely? I have been keeping track and we've had sex mutual sex on average once per month for the last two years. As long as there is no perception of pouting. This is honestly where and when I feel our marriage started going back. If the spark in your relationship seems to have fizzled, you're probably wondering what happened. Because sex is important to me, and it's one of my biggest needs as a man. It is a devastating situation for a marriage.
So, for the next week, which I know will be very hard. It is important to take help from a physician to first assess for any physical reasons for the decreased libido that your wife seems to have like hypothyroidism, vitamin D deficiency, severe anaemia. It goes deep into a woman's heart. She's told me that I should go see someone for me, because of how depressed I've been lately. But off late, I am getting a lot of calls from similar-minded girls who are also ignored by their husbands. Your very presence puts pressure on her behavior.
If we have sex once in 3-4 months is lucky for me. Somehow, I have been managing all these years with porn and masturbation. Women need an emotional connection to their husband in order to feel sexual desire. I make every effort to pursue my wife, but mostly she isn't swayed by that persistent, consistent pursuit. Kind of a half-assed approach by her if you ask me. Other than that, we just play the role of roommates in my eyes. There's some good information over in the Men's Clubhouse that could give you a start on some reading.
Lots of things for herself as previously mentioned, but not much for us. Or could it be possible that her dampened desire has nothing to do with the state of your relationship, and that she may be experiencing? Husbands, look at your wife: What does she need in this moment that you could provide? She was wanting sex all the time, couldn't get enough of it. I can relate to the coaster thing - used to be that way a long time ago when my H and I were first married. If women are having lots of good sex with their husband they are less likely to be beating him up over those little things that accumulate. On the link I posted search for dopamine and oxytocin. In fact, a more recent , involving a telephone survey of 987 white and black women aged 20 to 65 years old, found that just 24 percent of women reported marked distress about their sexual relationship or sexuality.
The lacking is more than just sex. To help make it easier for your partner to open up, don't approach the topic in bed. Please consider couple's counseling with a trained marital therapist. It's not that we never, but she almost never initiates and frequency is abysmal. Also, there is a need to explore for any psychological issues. She does not like to touch me down below - oral is out of the question.